Addressing us today on the topic of end-of-life awareness and choices, Jordan Posamentier introduced us to the Compassion & Choices organization. Jordan is the chair of their advocacy team, and currently works for StudentsFirst, headquartered in Sacramento.
Compassion & Choices of Northern California seeks to educate terminally-ill individuals and their families about their rights to a dignified, humane, and peaceful death. They offer a series of free services that focus on comfort care and pain management.
Some terminally-ill individuals are able to experience their last days of life with relative ease. Others have prolonged suffering and want to explore pain management, hospice, comfort care, and other alternatives. It is to these patients that we offer free counseling and support.
Our vision is to live in a society in which all people have freedom in making end-of-life decisions.
Compassion & Choices hosts seminars across Northern California and the country, including several upcoming events in the Bay Area. Jordan’s discussion focused on the legal and ethical side of end-of-life care, including state and federal regulations that influence the treatment and palliative care we receive at the end our lives.
Our “Back to School” series continues this week, with a presentation from Margaret Lavin, who leads attendance improvement efforts for the Redwood City School District. She is also the “Elementary, My Dears” columnist for the San Mateo County Times and the Bay Area News Group and writes the “Class Notes” column for the Santa Clara Weekly. Her presentation on bullying was alarming for parents and grandparents alike.
Bullying is an unfortunate fact of life, and it’s a problem in many places. We all want our children to grow up in a safe and nurturing environment, and we do our best to see that it happens. But when we send kids off to school, sometimes there are people there that, for one reason or another, feel better only when they are bringing others down.
Bullying is when someone repeatedly and on purpose says or does mean or hurtful things to another person who has a hard time defending himself or herself.
Margaret shared examples of both direct bullying (name-calling, threats, violence) and indirect bullying (convincing others to bully, spreading rumors, cyber bullying). She also discussed the impacts on the participants in the bullying, including the victims, the perpetrators, and the bystanders.
She also introduced us to “Seth’s Law,” which requires California schools to address bullying through localized policies and the distribution of family resources. Other resources include the
OLWEUS Bully Prevention Program (Violence Prevention Works) and the Peninsula Conflict Resolution Center.
School is back in session, and so too are programs that bring services to students across our community.
In the name of education, we welcomed Kayla Weems and Tai Sunnanon from the Silicon Valley branch of the national Reading Partners program.
Reading Partners provides programs at many local schools, including several Title 1 elementary schools in San Jose Unified and other districts across the South Bay. They provide resources and connections to help one adult help one student.
Our Club’s interest in local authors and local history come together this week, as we welcome Tim Stanley, local author of “The Last of the Prune Pickers.”
Campbell, of course, still celebrates its history as the center of prune picking, as reflected by the names of current places like the Pruneyard Shipping Center and the old “Prune Festival” street festival, which has been supplanted by “Boogie on the Bayou.” If you grew up in the Valley between 1850 and the mid 1950s, your path to a prosperous adulthood likely involved the fresh prune industry. But the story of prunes in the Valley begins much earlier, even before the Spanish Missions and Gold Rush changed the agricultural path of our region. Once technology brought irrigation improvements and canning processes, the wheat farms of the post-Gold Rush era converted to fruit orchards … and Prunes became a big crop in the center of the Valley of Heart’s Delight.
Tim grew up in Santa Clara Valley long before it was called Silicon Valley. As the Valley was being transformed from agriculture to housing tracts, 12-year-old Stanley worked for an old farmer who became a friend and lifelong role model. The lessons learned while being with the old farmer and on his farm left a deep impression. Tim met his wife, Deborah, while in high school, and they’ve been married more than 40 years. After running a business for many years, Tim now is a self-published author. His tale of prune pickers in Silicon Valley history was published in 2010.
Prunes vs. Plums. Tim enjoyed talking about the difference between prunes and plums. He penned a poem on the subject, which he also shared with us.
Of Plums and Prunes
Prunes are plums, I won’t deny,
But not all plums are prunes.
The kinds that ferment—those are plums;
Those that resist are prunes.
Plums are picked from ladders,
From branches of the tree;
Prunes are picked up off the ground.
This differs too, you see.
Plums are to be eaten fresh;
Prunes are grown to dry.
I hope this explanation helps—
At least I had to try.
Now if you don’t believe me,
With my grammar can’t agree,
Mr. Webster understood these things,
And he will vouch for me.